You want to play that game?

And there it was, the idiotic, ignorant, hateful remark I’ve been expecting for almost five years now:

Elayne glantzberg, you might be better suited to do something else but for having children. Seems you’re pron to having deformed children. Please stop.

I just know that’s going to get under my skin today, especially since I can’t find the guy and personally kick him in the balls.  Although I can tell you he appears to live in Norfolk County, Ontario, use the name Derek, and look something like this:


Let’s start with the most obvious “deformity”:  I have 4 blind and visually-impaired children, out of 6 children fathered by my blind husband.  My husband was diagnosed most of his life with a non-genetic congenital condition, Persistent Fetal Vasculature Syndrome (PFVS) (or PHPV, or just PFV, they keep changing the nomenclature).  He was told repeatedly, including by the pediatric ophthalmologist who treated both him and my triplets, that there was absolutely no possible way that his children could inherit his blindness.  Otherwise, he never would have intentionally fathered any genetic children.  Our triplets were also diagnosed initially with a non-genetic, congenital condition, this time Retinopathy of Prematurity (ROP), a perfectly reasonable diagnosis given that they were born 14 weeks premature, weighing less than 2 pounds each.  Our fifth child’s eye condition was completely missed by his pediatric ophthalmologist, competely, utterly, totally, and yes, I believe negligently.  Our sixth child was unplanned, but it wasn’t until he was born that everybody got the correct diagnosis, which was Familial Exudative VitreoRetinopathy (FEVR), a progressive, genetic condition that in our family was caused by a dominant mutation in the FZLD-4 gene that initially occurred in my husband.  As soon as he found out his blindness was genetic, he got a vasectomy, something that probably he would have done 20 years ago had he gotten this diagnosis then.

If you’re talking about my autistic children when you call them deformed, let me right now remind the entire online autistic community that your name is Derek G, you live in Norfolk County, Ontario, and you look like this:


I don’t consider my autistic children deformed or disabled.  They are different.  You are also very, very different.

So tell me, dear internet friend Derek, since you feel compelled to a) call my children deformed, and b) blame me for having them, even though c) apparently my blind 7-year-old can spell better than you:  WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE DONE DIFFERENTLY?

Published by solinox

I am a Wiccan priestess, a libertarian mother of triplets plus three, a wife and homeschooling mom to blind and autistic children, a fiber artist, and a Jane of All Trades, always learning and seeking to help.

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  1. No use saying anything to him, Its obvious from his statement that he is stoopid, and honey there is no fix in the world for stoopid.

  2. Ah, Elayne. Not even worth a response, really, is he? But I loved yours, esp the bit around reminding the autism community who he is. :^ ) And the part about giving him a penectomy. Oh, wait, no, I got that wrong–you were talking about *Brian* getting a *vasectomy.* Sorry, sometimes I read what I want to read, I guess… ;^ )

  3. What a horrible, cruel, ignorant person. Your children are in no way “lesser” because of the issues they face. I am lucky enough to have relationships with all your children. They are all highly intelligent and extremely kind and caring. I think they are just the type of people the world needs more of. As for Derek, we sure don’t need more of his kind.

  4. You know, every single one of your children is already a better person than that asstastic jackwagon became. Seems he’s suited to do something else but for attempting to communicate with humans.

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